Mainly, we don�t want to hear disagreement from people who are important to us.
We don�t want to hear that our children are making choices we wouldn�t make�
We don�t want to hear that our partner believes we are anything but perfect�
We don�t want to hear that our friend, our parent, our teacher, our boss, sees anything in us to criticize.
We know we aren�t perfect, but we can�t tolerate hearing it from someone else.
Why should that be?
Where did we get the idea that we�re supposed to be error-free?
To accept our own imperfection is to make a giant step toward peace of mind.
To accept that the world is full of people who disagree with us � some of whom even love us very much � is to begin to achieve maturity.
Perhaps we think, or used to think, that we would be happy when we rubbed out our last traces of imperfection.
That is not happiness, that is to become marble � hard, cold, and breakable.
Healthy pride is heavy with humility. If we can feel joyful when we succeed, and tell others about it honestly, we are not being boastful.
Healthy pride about our greatest victories always comes with the awareness that we did not do it all by ourselves.