Research on nonhumans concludes that much of their behaviour is explained by either physiological or learned motives. Human behaviours are more complex and less clearly categorized. Combined motives are explanations for human behaviour that involve both physiological and acquired influences. Two of these are sex and contact needs.
Contact
Among many nonhuman species, young animals imprint onto older animals, usually their mothers, a process of restricting their social behaviours to the imprinted object. A newly hatched chick will follow and try to cuddle with the imprinted object, whether or not it is a hen, and will show distressed behaviour when prevented from making such contact. Interrupted imprinting may result in some social confusion when the animal is older.
Primates, including humans, are dependent on parental care when young, but they develop more complex, learned behaviour attachment than the imprinting of simpler species. Classic research with infant monkeys has indicated the need for physical contact in healthy development. Given the choice betwwen a wire-mesh milk dispenser and a soft, cuddly 'mother' who did not dispense milk, baby monkeys chose to spend all their non-nursing time clinging to the comfortable surface.
Being deprived of physical contact has been associated in both humans and primates with illness, poor development, and failure to attach. Contact and physical access appear to be important in attachment to significant others in infancy, and perhaps throughout life.
Contact
Among many nonhuman species, young animals imprint onto older animals, usually their mothers, a process of restricting their social behaviours to the imprinted object. A newly hatched chick will follow and try to cuddle with the imprinted object, whether or not it is a hen, and will show distressed behaviour when prevented from making such contact. Interrupted imprinting may result in some social confusion when the animal is older.
Primates, including humans, are dependent on parental care when young, but they develop more complex, learned behaviour attachment than the imprinting of simpler species. Classic research with infant monkeys has indicated the need for physical contact in healthy development. Given the choice betwwen a wire-mesh milk dispenser and a soft, cuddly 'mother' who did not dispense milk, baby monkeys chose to spend all their non-nursing time clinging to the comfortable surface.
Being deprived of physical contact has been associated in both humans and primates with illness, poor development, and failure to attach. Contact and physical access appear to be important in attachment to significant others in infancy, and perhaps throughout life.
The Rose Within
A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it.
He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, "How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns?" Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom... it died.
So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.
We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.
Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.
This is one of the characteristic of love... to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life... all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the "rose" within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.
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